The Culture Club singer says when he`s in a relationship he is unaware of his feelings but when the romance is over as he appreciates that person a lot more.
Speaking about his bandmate and former lover Jon Moss, he said: "I don`t know if the first was love, it was more obsessive. In fact, I don`t know if any of my past relationships have beenlove. I love my ex-boyfriend Michael in a way I didn`t when I was with him - I really care about him now, it`s the same with Jon. Quite often I`ve had to lose them to love them in a healthy way."
The 49-year-old musician also revealed how his taste in men has changed over the years, saying he likes "odd-looking types".
He told OK! magazine: "When you`re older you have to be more realistic. I like stunning Tom Hardy types but also odd-looking people - I love a big nose, humour, someone who`s got balls and a sense of themselves. Someone can be drop-dead gorgeous and I won`t find them attractive. I`ll find the person who`s giving me no attention attractive!"