The `Sin City` actress - who has daughters Honor, three, and eight-month-old Haven with spouse Cash Warren - says anything from watching reality TV together to going out for a date night when the children are gone to bed has helped their relationship.
Writing in her blog for iVillage.com, she said: "Cash and I have found that maintaining a family schedule is the key to making time for each other. Whether we`re settling into the couch to watch bad reality television or getting a babysitter so we can enjoy a date night out, we always know we have dedicated time after the girls are asleep to catch up, discuss what`s on our minds, and simply just be with each other (no cell phones or e-mail allowed!).
Carving out this alone time is especially important after almost nine years together, too. Often feeling tired after a busy day at work and home, I know how easy it is to take each other for granted or let our relationship sit on the back burner and think, "It will be there tomorrow, now it`s time for sleep." So, making time for our relationship in our daily routine - even though it`s surprisingly predictable and may not seem as spicy as our spontaneous pre-kiddo days - really helps keep the romancealive."
Although the couple have been together for nine years, Jessica says Cash still loves to make romantic gestures.
She said: "Maybe it`s because I`m 30 or maybe it`s because I`m a mom, but I don`t think romance is always about swinging from chandeliers (although it`s nice from time to time). It`s really about the small gestures too. Recently when filming a movie in Atlanta, Cash surprised me by having a beautiful bouquet of flowers delivered to the set. It was a simple, heartfelt surprise that let me know he was thinking of me during my time away from home. I loved it. He also takes over middle-of-the-night feedings, tends to fevers, and takes the girls to the park without me having to ask because he knows I need a break. All these things add to our romance."