Is Love Blind?
We`ve all heard the expression, "Love is blind," meaning that when we first meet someone and think we`re falling in love, we`re quite oblivious to their faults and shortcomings.
There is a term called limerance that has been coined to describe the somewhat indescribable feelings that arise when we first meet someone to whom we`re attracted. During the period of limerance, you become infatuated with someone you barely know and rush headlong into a relationship. Many people don`t eat, sleep, and can`t concentrate on anything but the object of this powerful attraction.
Limerance can be the forerunner of love. But, it`s also possible that once the "high" of limerance passes, feelings of love fade into indifference or dislike. The period of limerance is usually six to twelve months. What happens after that is the true test of a relationship.
With a large number of people getting married within twelve months of meeting, the high divorce rate in the U.S. begins to make sense. Limerance is a good argument for dating past the one year mark before making a long-term commitment.
What do you think about limerance, and the crazy joys and highs of the beginning of relationships? Experienced it yourself? Watched your best friend`s ups and downs?
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